tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-49192064041675704122024-03-12T22:14:47.289-05:00Raindrops...speak the nearness of God in my life.Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-89436297436778799522020-01-16T11:40:00.000-06:002020-01-16T12:41:30.119-06:00The person I used to be.<a href="https://i.pinimg.com/originals/c3/fc/7a/c3fc7aecd7f24b62896007b3e791cea7.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://i.pinimg.com/originals/c3/fc/7a/c3fc7aecd7f24b62896007b3e791cea7.jpg" width="200" /></a><br />
<blockquote class="tr_bq" style="background-color: ; color: #333333; font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px; margin: 0px 0px 15px; padding: 0px;">“We all change, when you think about it. We’re all different people all through our lives. And that’s OK, that’s good, you gotta keep moving, so long as you remember all the people that you used to be.”</blockquote><span style="background-color: ; font-family: "merriweather" , "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14px;">― </span><span class="authorOrTitle" style="background-color: transparent; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-weight: bold;">Steven Moffat</span><br />
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</span></span> <span style="color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: ; font-size: 14px;">But the recurring thought that rings through my head now is, <i>I miss the person I used to be.</i> I miss feeling vibrant and alive. I miss feeling competent and successful. I miss making an impact, filling in where needed, working as a team, rising to the occasion, planning big events. I miss teaching God's word to those who have barely heard it. I miss being capable of taking care of big things. I miss being capable of sitting down and listening to small hurts. I miss being the person I had become in Chicago -- which, in retrospect, was actually quite the different person than I was before that. That quiet, introverted bookworm could never have imagined leading a club of 60 rowdy Jr. High students!</span></span><br />
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</span></span> <span style="color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: ; font-size: 14px;">I miss living a big life and having an impact on the lives of many. But I grew so very weary of such a big life - trying to meet the needs, hopes, and expectations of all those around me.</span></span><br />
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</span></span> <span style="color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: ; font-size: 14px;">Did you catch that, dear reader? The subtle lie disguising itself in "goodness"? It seems so very good, so Christ-like, to try to meet others' needs, to put others above yourself, to think little of yourself. It seems so very good to want others to be well, to be happy, to feel loved, to feel supported. But the lie that twists these not-wrong things into soul-crushing wrongness is, "I am responsible." I am responsible to make sure everyone around me is well, happy, loved, supported. I am responsible to fill each need that I see. I am responsible to meet the hopes and expectations of those around me. </span></span><br />
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</span> <span style="background-color: ; color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">I was a </span><i style="color: #333333; font-family: Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">doing</i><span style="background-color: ; color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"> person. In high school, I was involved in church in every way possible, and helped out in my parents' ministry as needed. In Bible school I worked so hard at my job in food service I got tendinitis, studied hard to graduate with honors, volunteered at ministries beyond the requirements. I was a </span><i style="color: #333333; font-family: Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">doing</i><span style="background-color: ; color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"> person.</span><br />
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</span> <span style="background-color: ; color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">Now, by necessity, I am taking a few years as a </span><i style="color: #333333; font-family: Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">being</i><span style="background-color: ; color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;"> person. It's taken while to realize that my husband won't judge me or love me less if I don't do a lot, if every day isn't productive in some way. I'm often surprised at how supportive people at church are upon hearing my "season of rest" explanation to "What do you do?" It takes practice, to just <i>be</i> in this busy world. It takes practice to stop evaluating myself by productivity and accomplishments. </span><br />
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</span> <span style="background-color: ; color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">My life now is beautiful and sweet. Quiet days alone, evenings with my incredibly understanding, loving husband. But it often feels strange. I feel like a different person now. A person who still dreams of big things but is currently capable of little. My life is small, and though I longed for a small life I am not satisfied with it. I want to do big things for God, but the "doing" part in me is broken. </span><br />
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</span> <span style="background-color: ; color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">I'm still the person who loves a good book, who gets excited at seeing turkeys and opossums, (I've been a city girl for the past 15 years, wildlife other than rats and pigeons is pretty cool). But now I'm the person who can't do it all. Who can't volunteer in the local school or soup kitchen, in children's church or youth group. Who ignores texts and phone calls until I have the emotional energy to communicate with another human being. Who sees the needs around her and has to say, <i>I can't right now</i>. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "lato" , "helvetica neue" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: ; font-size: 14px;">Things that I thought were immovable actually are. Things that I thought had to happen actually don't. </span></span><br />
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It's that time of year. Where romance blooms, or not. Love is celebrated, or longed for. Special dates and special presents. I recently saw a social media post from a young person I know saying just because he's already her boyfriend doesn't mean he doesn't have to ask her to be his valentine. There is a lot of pressure around this holiday, a lot of social and cultural expectations.<br />
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But I'd like to challenge some of these assumptions, to contradict the notion that romance looks like gifts and poems and flowers and chocolates.<br />
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There is more than one kind of romance. More than this socially projected and expected expression of love.<br />
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You see, if the popular idea of Valentine's Day is the norm for romance, then my dad was never very romantic. Neither is my husband. I can count on one hand the times my Man has brought me flowers, and the only time he gave me chocolate was the 3 bars he brought back from France last summer. At first, I wanted to receive the "normal" romantic expressions from the man who loved me, to get flowers "just because," to have fancy date nights planned for me, to hear sweet nothings and be told I was beautiful all the time. <br />
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This year, as the Husband expressed his disinterest in Valentine's Day plans and my first response was disappointment, I examined my reaction. Valentine's Day is special, it's a day to celebrate love, right? But every day, the Man celebrates our love in little ways that make me feel cherished and cared for. Every morning of my childhood, my dad brought my mom a hot cup of tea in bed. And my Husband is so very like him.<br />
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I often wake thirsty in the night, so I keep a bottle of water by the bed. More often than not, the Husband fills it for me before I even remember to. Before we switched to flannel sheets, he heated my rice bag and placed it at the foot of the bed so my cold toes would encounter warmth. If there are ever any dishes in the sink that I haven't washed (again, more often than not), he washes them without complaint. He chips off the ice so I can sit warm in the car. He comes home from work early when I've had a bad anxiety day, just because I need him near.<br />
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Each of these and so many more are his constant, frequent gifts of love.<br />
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Dear Young Women, love is not flowers and gifts and showing you off and knowing your size. Love is patience when you cry because you dropped something, kindness when you burned the food, understanding your needs enough to avoid the things that stress you. Love is encouraging you to pursue God and fellowship with others, knowing that you need this on Sunday morning more than extra sleep. Love is celebrating your victories over inner struggles, even when they would be small to anyone else. Love is treasuring you regardless of what you do for him.<br />
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Love looks a little different for each person in each relationship, but I can guarantee that it is not solely, or even mainly, what is sold to us by consumerism and the media.<br />
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In fact, love isn't just romantic. For years when I was single, I watched people around me grit their teeth and bear it through February 14, calling it "National Singleness Awareness Day," or bemoaning their lack of significant other. I observe movies and TV shows as characters scramble for a date to avoid being alone.<br />
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But I never felt that way. There is so much love in each of our lives to celebrate without a significant other, because being in a relationship, getting married, and having children isn't the ultimate achievement. Your ultimate happiness won't come from a romantic relationship - many divorced couples will tell you that.<br />
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So this Valentine's Day, go ahead, celebrate love. I'll be celebrating friendship and fellowship of those brought together by the love of Christ in our church small group. Celebrate your relationship, celebrate friendships and family, but don't let others' expectations dictate what that celebration looks like. Instead, look for those small, everyday acts of kindness that you share with those you love.<br />
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And then maybe eat some chocolate, too.<br />
<br />Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-31484000821106545652019-01-30T15:35:00.001-06:002019-01-30T15:35:16.751-06:00Learning to Say No (Long winded and with tangents)"It's hard to say no when the need never stops."<br />
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That's what I told Pastor Zach on Sunday while explaining why I wasn't going to Ecuador with the church in February.<br />
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My church is going to Ecuador. My current home has a passion and love for my home country. And I'm not going with them.<br />
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I'm not going with them because I'm still in recovery. Ministry burnout took more than I knew, recovery takes longer than I hoped, longer than I planned. I planned for two months, three at the most. The Husband and I married in September and stay-at-home-wife isn't really a thing in my generation, so clearly I would get a job. A couple months off to rest, I figured, then I'd work on my resume and definitely have a job by January. At least a part-time job. Something to show that I am a worthwhile person, that I am contributing to my little family of two, that my time is spent well, that I am not lazy and taking advantage of my wonderful husband, that I'm not using anxiety and burnout as an excuse to binge Netflix and keep up on Hulu.<br />
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Yet here it is, the day before February, and my church is going to my home country (where it's the best time of year, sunny and in the 70s) and I can't go. I consider a productive day to be one that includes cooking and/or knitting, possibly some freelance editing. Laundry is an accomplishment. Showering in the morning is an accomplishment. One that I haven't completed today, I confess.<br />
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But that's all a tangent.<br />
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"It's hard to say no when the need never stops."<br />
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I felt that way for four years with ICI. I feel that way still. My parents are moving in February, and my first instinct is, "Should I go down and help?" My friend from college is in the hospital, her husband home with two foster boys, and I think, "Should I go down and help?" We're not even that close anymore, but I passionately believe that we should foster, adopt, and support those who do. The church asked if we could help with the children's ministry, and I gritted my teeth as I forced myself to say no. The crisis in Venezuela continues as refugees pour into Ecuador, my parents supporting a local church that is partnering with a church in Venezuela, and I think, are there relief programs in place? Can I go help in one, start one?<br />
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No. No. NO.<br />
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So, unable to be the hands and feet of Jesus, I pray, and I ask the Husband if we can give. Be the pocketbook of Jesus, so to speak. Not that He needs us to be His pocketbook. Not that anyone in America calls it a pocketbook anymore.<br />
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Having explained my burnout and limited energies to Pastor Zach, he responds by sharing the time he also ran himself ragged. How he also talked to doctors and counselors. He encouraged me to be ok with taking care of myself. After all, even Jesus left the crowds for times of rest. Even though the needs didn't stop there either. People still needed healing. Still asked Him to talk to them. Still wanted more from Him. But He stepped away.<br />
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This January marks 25 years of ministry in Ecuador for my parents. I only made it four in Chicago. But then again, Jesus only had three years of active ministry on earth, so maybe it's not a numbers game. Because if it were, then I beat out Jesus, so I must have done pretty well after all. But that sounds not only sacreligious, but petty and foolish. And maybe a bit funny. I'm sure he had a sense of humor. Has. Present tense.<br />
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I don't know why I expect more for myself than is reasonable. I don't know why I assign time frames for healing and recovery. I don't know why I assume the Husband is silently judging and evaluating me. He's not. He gives me more grace and understanding than I give myself.<br />
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Pastor Zach suggested something I had never considered: A long-term view of ministry. The Husband agreed: I tend to sprint right out the gate. But sprinting isn't feasible for the long-term. A lifetime of loving and serving others can only be achieved if I also love and care for myself. There's all kinds of literature out there now about <i>The Best Yes </i>(which is a book on my shelf given by a kind roommate that I have yet to read), and how every time you say yes to one thing you say no to something else, and saying no allows you to say yes to something else. The latter being things like rest, family, health, etc.<br />
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Some days, the Husband comes home from work and he has to reheat the plan-ahead leftovers, because I am so drained, from life in general, from a migraine, the reasons vary, that moving from my nest on the couch seems infeasible. My one job as a wife: feed the man. And I don't even always do that. (Maybe I'll change the job description to "Kiss the man." I can always do that.)<br />
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I am learning to accept that my needs matter, even though the wounds are hidden wounds and hard to describe to the outsider. I'm learning that limitations are a beautiful thing. I'm learning that "No" is not a bad answer. And I daily thank God for the gift of the time and space to do that.<br />
<br />Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-49103475324281497502019-01-24T16:32:00.000-06:002019-01-24T16:37:59.833-06:00Simple Kindness<br />
The snow was still light and airy as I swept it off the car. My neighbor shoveled around his minivan beside me. Last week, my husband cleaned out the minivan's spot when we cleared ours, and now the neighbor had already shoveled away all the snow between the two cars. <i>Kindness shared</i>, I thought and tried to catch his eye in greeting. I was careful to sweep the snow to the unshoveled side as I cleared off the roof, respecting the work he had done.<br />
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As I finished shoveling around our car, I moved on to the adjacent walkway, yellow stripes that marked the entry to the sidewalk appearing as I pushed the snow to the edge of the lawn. The snow was packed hard here from the treading of many feet, piled high along the edges from the passing plow. The neighbor, his car freed, loaded with sleds, wife driving the daughters off for an adventure, moved to join me in clearing the public space. Then we started on the sidewalks. I shoveled till my hands shook, my arms ached, my shirt soaked through with sweat. The neighbor's son had come out, cute in the unique Asian way, smiling eyes and quiet demeanor, whispering to his dad in a tongue I couldn't understand. He skittered back towards the apartment, watching us. As I stretched my back, rolling my shoulders, I decided I had done my share of caring for our communal space and turned to wave goodbye to the neighbor. The boy emerged from the apartment with a juice box. He spoke quietly to his father, and the man pointed at me, urging him forward. The little boy ran up to me, smiling shyly, juice box in his outstretched hand, and said "Thank you."<br />
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This simple kindness was touching. The thoughtfulness of a small boy to offer something of his own to me. I clomped up the stairs in my heavy boots, stripped off my parka, wool mittens, and snow pants, then collapsed on the couch. Reaching immediately for the juice, I smiled as I pierced the little foil hole with the straw - adulthood hasn't diminished my delight in juice boxes.<br />
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A few hours later I glanced out the window and noticed the apartment complex actually <i>had</i> sent out snow blowers - everything we didn't shovel was evenly cleared. I let out a short laugh. Our hard work had been unnecessary. But I didn't regret it. It gave me some healthy exercise, a sense of a job well-done, and the opportunity to make a connection and receive a young boy's honest kindness.<br />
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Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-51257965726887635542019-01-22T18:50:00.001-06:002019-01-22T18:50:16.510-06:00Sunday. I cried on Sunday. <div>
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Tears dripped off my chin as I sniffled quietly, listening to the pastor's message.</div>
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Sobs shook my chest and my lungs caught, unsure if air was still welcome. I looked at my wet eyes and something crumbled inside of me, trying to hide itself back into the tight ball shattered by that short sentence: </div>
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"We need to go headfirst into the darkness."</div>
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I'm not sure I can describe the ripping, the tearing these words caused, still cause, something deep within me grieving. </div>
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<i>I remember that burden, that burning desire to walk into the pain, the brokenness, the darkness, the hopelessness, the torrent of lives untouched by the church, </i>something inside me screams. <i>I remember it, and I went, and I broke.</i> "He won't ask you to do more than you can handle," said the pastor, encouraging the congregation to step out in faith. <i>But He </i>does<i>. He asks for more than we can give, offers more than we can carry. </i>How else will we know we are weak? </div>
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I wasn't weak, I was strong.</div>
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There is a certain high you get from succeeding, from doing well. </div>
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"Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that."</blockquote>
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Martin Luther King Jr. said that. We just celebrated his legacy and his memory.</div>
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But he died. </div>
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I have died, too. </div>
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Hate ended his life. Inspired by his words, I offered love, yet hate screamed so loudly all around me. I grew hoarse. My breath, gone. A passionate, living part of me has died. The light no longer enough for any more than myself. And my world, oh, blessed relief, has shrunk to just me. And my husband. I no longer fight to offer love. My role is just to <i>be</i> loved. </div>
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Faces still haunt me. Voices echo in stillness and solitude. I dream about them. The ones I loved well. The ones I failed. Their vibrant joys and violent pains. </div>
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I step back to let someone else fight in the darkness. Someone else shine. </div>
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When Pastor Z called the church to step out intentionally in love, as Christ did in Matthew Four, I wanted to shout back. </div>
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But I honestly don't know what I would shout.</div>
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A warning? <i>"Don't do it. It hurts!" </i></div>
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A retort? "<i>I have, and I can't go any further. Let me rest!"</i></div>
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An agreement? <i>"Yes! Please! Everyone, join the ranks, let's bathe this world in Christ's light!"</i></div>
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I've been reading the book of Job, and find deep comfort there. This man sees the injustice in the world. Has fought to love the broken, stood strong in his service to God, yet is now brought low. Steeped in misery, everything stripped from him, he asks God, <i>Why? What did I do wrong? </i> </div>
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We need space to feel this. To say this. To not jump straight to celebration and ignore the pain. </div>
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So please, join in with Pastor Z and MLK and fight the darkness, with the gospel, with love, with social awareness and justice - but don't ask me to join you. I don't have any more love to give. I am learning to simply <i>be </i>loved. And to keep crying.</div>
Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-86561266805422172122018-10-15T21:10:00.001-05:002018-10-15T21:10:24.841-05:00The Privilege to LeaveI didn't want to leave Chicago.<br />
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I didn't want to leave Chicago because it didn't seem fair.<br />
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I didn't want to leave Chicago because it didn't seem fair that <i>I could</i>.<br />
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I loved living in the city. I loved the hustle and bustle, the wind, the architecture, the wrought-iron fences. I loved the parking skills I gained, understanding the grid system, the different atmospheres of different neighborhoods. I loved my friends and "family" there, the sense of belonging I developed, the confidence I'd gained.<br />
I loved the people, the richness of the culture, the joy found in good food and graduations, deep bass music and quick-footed dancing. I loved hearing friends call out to each other. I loved yelling across the street myself.<br />
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And yet, Chicago crushed me.<br />
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It broke me.<br />
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Till each breath, each heartbeat was a struggle, full of tension and despair.<br />
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Chicago is full of darkness.<br />
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Because, you see, when I lived in Chicago, I didn't live in the world of glittering lights and new handbags and smooth jazz and farmer's markets - though I loved visiting that world.<br />
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I lived in <i>the city</i>, under-privileged and under-resourced. Drive-bys, school fights, gang signs cluttering up the stop signs. Angry voices, hardened faces. Desperate moms asking for help, needing food to put on the table. Neglected teens with no money for bus fare to get to school.<br />
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"Some days I can't even get out of bed," confesses one woman to me.<br />
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"My son was murdered last week. Please pray for us," texts another.<br />
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"Do you know where my sister is? She never came home last night."<br />
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"Can I stay with you? My mom kicked me out."<br />
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Violent scars glare at me from one girl's arms, her defiant attitude screaming, "M<i>y pain is my own and I am not ashamed of it</i>."<br />
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I grew overwhelmed by the pain and the helplessness and the anger and the fear, the vanity and the pride, the delight taken in lewdness and violence.<br />
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But I left.<br />
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I left to live a quiet middle class life, where all my needs are met and <i>I don't even have to work.</i><br />
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Instead of gunshots I hear wild turkeys.<br />
The lake across the street will never be dragged for bodies.<br />
The only person I know who died recently passed from old age after a long and beautiful life.<br />
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I left. My soul is slowly re-anchoring itself, remembering what calm feels like.<br />
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But Janine couldn't. Nor Kathy, Maria, Amelia.<br />
So many are stuck just trying to hold themselves together, their families splintering, stuck in a world with harsh rules, constant demands, and no peace.<br />
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I can leave, step in and out at will. I have a new husband with multiple degrees working a productive job, I have friends and family that gave us generous wedding gifts (I have an <i>espresso maker</i>! What says middle class extravagance more than that?).<br />
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My privilege weighs heavy on me. Why am I so blessed when others are not? Why do I get to step away but others do not?<br />
How can I step away when the world still cries out for love and understanding, for someone to listen and care and give a helping hand? How can I leave when so many others stay?<br />
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I don't know.<br />
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I just know that I did. I left because I had to, because it was tearing me apart, piece by piece. I shouldered burdens that were not mine to carry, fought anger that was not mine to feel. And I found a man who was kind and gentle, brave and steady, a man who cared about <i>me</i>, not what I did or what others needed, but <i>me</i>. And he pulled me to a quiet place so I could find healing. So I could breathe and feel my heart beat.<br />
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But still my heart waits with all those trapped in the darkness.Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-54884825080527806602016-09-29T13:21:00.002-05:002016-09-29T13:21:25.307-05:00Race and Privilege Through the Eyes of a White Girl.I have always felt my privilege.<br />
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Growing up <i>gringa</i> in a South American country, I stood out as a minority, but not a marginalized minority. I fit the goals of beauty - light skin, light eyes, light hair. Being American meant being wealthy (true or not), therefore looking <i>gringa</i> like in the American movies meant being beautiful. Countless strangers on the street commented on my green eyes. Catcalls were the norm since puberty hit. I tried to hide my sexuality to attract less attention. It's not that I was an exceptionally beautiful girl.<br />
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Society told me I was beautiful by nature of my coloring.<br />
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If society can deem that one coloring is better than another, is it any surprise that the reverse is also true?<br />
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"You're pretty for a dark-skinned."<br />
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These words were said to my beautiful young African American friend. I often admire her deeply dark skin, her great big smile, and the hair that is so very different from mine that I always want to touch it.<br />
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As a child, I quickly grew accustomed to people wanting to touch my hair. Blond and soft and fine was so different from what those around me were used to - Corn tassel stands out as strange in a sea of raven. I know what it's like to be on the receiving end of, "Can I touch your hair?" and grew accustomed to it being touched even without my permission.<br />
But I don't know what it's like to be deemed <i>less than</i> because of my differences. To never fall under the category of "normal." To have my hair likened to animal fur.<br />
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I am familiar with being an object of curiosity.<br />
I am not familiar with being an object of scorn. Of equally unsettling, well-intentioned, I-think-I'm-complimenting-you insults from racially biased mouths.<br />
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What is even more unsettling is this way of measuring someone's beauty or value - by the tone of their skin - penetrates even to the minds of the minority. Light skinned African Americans look down on dark skinned, hispanics closer to their indigenous roots are deemed <i>less than</i> those who have more European blood in them.<br />
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These values are assigned subconsciously and trace back to overt historical reasons. Lighter skinned slaves were in the house, darker skinned were in the fields. The unclaimed offspring of the masters who raped as they pleased still had more value than those without white blood in their veins. I saw this in South America, as those enslaved were not African but indigenous tribes like the Quichua. The indigenous people are often looked down on and scorned as uneducated, dirty, work-hardened, poor. The general populous in Ecuador is mixed from the European conquerors and the indigenous. The upper class trace their roots more closely to the Spanish.<br />
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Let's face it - in the early days many of the Europeans who came over to the Americas were pretty full of themselves, seeing themselves as better than those around them. They were more advanced and wealthier than the people in the land they were exploring, and if they weren't, they took the wealth for themselves. This created a society where the wealthy were white and the lower class were less so. Value is so often determined by money.<br />
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Therefore, most racism is heavily laced with classism. Someone is valued less because they are in poverty. Classism becomes racism when we pass judgement of class based on skin tone.<br />
He's black, he's probably poor. Uneducated. A thug.<br />
She's black, she's probably a single mother. A slut. Living on welfare.<br />
Is a business more likely to hire someone named Andrew or Andre? Joe or Jose? Studies show that people are passed over even because of their <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/job-seeker-changed-his-name-2014-9#ixzz3CrgK6eRK" target="_blank">name</a>. <i>Their name</i>.<br />
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Sociologically, we usually deem whatever the wealthy have as what is ideal. In the past and in other cultures, carrying extra weight meant that you had a surplus of food, were well off. Therefore, being "fat" was beautiful. When I was 13 my friend's dad told me I should gain weight so I could be prettier. Fifteen minutes later, his son told me I should lose weight so I could be prettier. (You can see the culture shift in the span of one generation, as idealizing American values of beauty started invading the Ecuadorian culture).<br />
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If the wealthy determine the standard of ideal beauty and value, (value is so often assigned based on beauty), and the wealthy are white, then minorities suffer from never being what is considered ideal. By very nature of being non-white, they are not good enough.<br />
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When I first heard the term "White Privilege," my initial reaction was typical: "But there are lots of poor white people. What about trailer parks and (please forgive me) 'white trash'? Sure, some have life handed to them in a neatly wrapped package, but many others have to work hard to get the American Dream. Some never attain it. So how can you say that White Privilege is a thing?"<br />
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I came to understand privilege doesn't mean you don't have to work hard.<br />
It means that you are starting from an easier place.<br />
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Part of Privilege is thinking everyone can do what I can do, everyone has the same opportunities and tools available to them.<br />
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But that's not the case. And there are different types of privilege.<br />
I may experience the privilege of being white while facing discrimination as a woman.<br />
<a href="http://occupywallstreet.net/story/explaining-white-privilege-broke-white-person" target="_blank">This article</a> sketches a picture of how different privileges play out. Gina Crosley-Corcoran puts it clearly:<br />
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"<span style="font-family: "ptsans" , "helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 21px;">Recognizing Privilege simply means being aware that some people have to work much harder just to experience the things you take for granted (if they ever can experience them at all.)" </span></blockquote>
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I do not apologize for being white - that is how God created me to be.<br />
But I am sorry that historically my race has abused it's status as majority to marginalize those who are black, brown, yellow, red.<br />
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We must acknowledge it's a problem when we detract value from a person or group of people - be it because of attractiveness, gender, race, social class, weight, or any other reason.<br />
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People have value because they are <i>human beings.</i> Because they are created in the image of God, carefully, intentionally crafted with myriad amazing traits - creativity, compassion, intelligence, strength, courage.<br />
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We must readjust our view of the world if we look through any other lens.<br />
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If you have not had the benefit of being taken out of your world to see another, as I have, then be intentional. Educate yourself. Dialogue with those who have experienced lack of privilege. Listen, seek to understand. As racial tensions continue to rise, be compassionate. Be a part of the solution.Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-36599363273467658852015-12-05T11:08:00.000-06:002016-05-20T11:39:26.835-05:00I'm so tired of life.I'm so tired of life.<br />
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I want the world to disappear.</div>
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To slowly fade away, bit by bit, falling to pieces around me</div>
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Till there is nothing</div>
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Silence.</div>
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Only the gentle brush of the wind</div>
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No longer a sensory assault that refuses to be assuaged</div>
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Stillness.</div>
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Quiet.<br />
I want to stand</div>
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And breathe deep</div>
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Tension easing away into the open </div>
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Floating like motes </div>
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Until it disappears.</div>
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Til bit by bit I too</div>
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Ease away into nothingness</div>
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Sleep</div>
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Rest</div>
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Freedom.</div>
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Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-85745828075141839502015-11-17T00:19:00.000-06:002015-11-17T00:19:04.907-06:00Five Date Venture: Part 2<div>
I have done it.</div>
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I have officially gone on my first date.</div>
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Well, not technically my first date. But the first that I knew for sure was a date and that had a "romantic" purpose. (Do I count when my friend took me out on a platonic Valentine's date?)</div>
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I have taken the first step into the fierce storm of the dating world. </div>
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I am running late. (When am I not?)</div>
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I am terrified.</div>
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I didn't expect to be nervous. I hadn't felt the need to primp or impress him. I'm not too concerned about his opinion of me. Though I joke about serial killers and axe murderers, I'm not specifically concerned for my safety either - I've taken steps to make sure people know where I am and that we meet in a location in which I am comfortable. </div>
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Yet as I walk past the familiar Moody campus to the local Starbucks, my insides churn and my hands shake and my heart cries out a prayer, "God, don't let me be there alone!" I'm not worried about being stood up, I could handle that. But my God has been with me through every venture in life, and I need to know he will be with me in this strange dance we call dating. I prayed desperately, filled with unspecified anxiety. <i>What do you talk about with someone you don't know? What if I don't like him and I don't know how to be kind? What if I can't stop fidgeting? </i></div>
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Let's be real: when do I ever stop fidgeting? </div>
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He's late.</div>
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He's late and I'm sure I must not have told him the right location.</div>
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I text him.</div>
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I message a couple close friends.</div>
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"WHY DID I THINK THIS WOULD BE A GOOD IDEA?"</div>
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"TELL ME I'M NOT GOING TO DIE."</div>
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"If he turns out to be a serial killer, tell my mother I love her."</div>
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"TELL ME I'LL BE ALRIGHT."</div>
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I can be a bit dramatic at times. </div>
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My friends' delayed response unnerves me even more. I sit facing the door, glancing up every time it opens.</div>
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Wrong race.</div>
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No glasses.</div>
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Wrong gender.</div>
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Maybe he doesn't always wear the glasses?</div>
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I don't have glasses in my picture, but I'm wearing them now.</div>
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I think I'll recognize him. If I don't, I'm sure he'll recognize the nervous white girl who is obviously waiting for someone.</div>
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My phone is my safety blanket as I pull up Messenger, my friend has replied and in a round about way tries to reassure me. I'm not sure I feel assured.</div>
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He walks through the door, remarkably recognizable. Taller than I expected.</div>
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Tall is nice.</div>
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I don't know the protocol in situations like this. If we were friends, I'd hug him. But we're not.</div>
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No contact seems cold, foreign.</div>
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I stick out my hand, a fairly safe, classic gesture. "Hi. I'm Cristina."</div>
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We stand in line to order. He doesn't make much eye contact, which is a little odd, but less unsettling than too much eye contact. <i>Why am I so concerned with eye contact?</i> We're talking about church, denominations, and his mother. Comfortable topics. </div>
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Grande latte in hand, I gesture to a table by the window. People watching would at least be a fall back. </div>
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We don't have much in common.</div>
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"Do you like sports?" About as much as pickled beets, but I respond with,"Eh, I'll cheer for Chicago if we win. Beyond that..." Unless it's baseball. I like being at a baseball game. But he's a Sox fan, I think that makes us arch rivals or something. At least it would if I cared about sports.</div>
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"What TV shows do you watch?" No overlap.</div>
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We strike out on politics as well. Not that I like talking about politics anyways.</div>
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We both like to draw. That's something.</div>
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Food? Well, who doesn't like tacos?</div>
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I earn brownie points for being able to cook. </div>
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He earns points by proudly being a nerd. And by keeping the conversation going. This isn't nearly as awkward as I thought it would be. I can feel my facade of confidence relaxing, I laugh more freely, chime in with my own thoughts more frequently. </div>
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He likes winter. Definitely earns points there, I don't find many people excited for the cold weather. I can't wait to go ice skating and see Chicago decked out for the holidays.</div>
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"So, Sundays are generally free for you? I'll call you."</div>
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<br />Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-1873498525350050202015-11-10T11:33:00.004-06:002015-11-10T11:33:46.843-06:00Five Date Venture Part 1<div>
<span>I recently created an OkCupid account. </span></div>
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<span>I always thought online dating was odd. Never thought I would be one to do it. But I know two great couples who met online, and recent events in my life have led me to the point of, "Why not?" Also, both my roommates were super excited for me to get an account. Encouragement helps.</span></div>
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<span>So I create an account. Put up a few cute pics. Try to be clever in my description. </span></div>
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<span>"Six things I could never do without:</span></div>
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<span>Affection, tea, sunshine, creative outlet, time outdoors, cereal"</span></div>
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<span>I will literally wither away without those things. Just watch me.</span></div>
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<span>Ok, I actually do fairly well without cereal.</span></div>
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<span>I was surprised at how quickly I started getting views, likes, and messages. If nothing else, this online dating thing is good for the ego. Random guys are totally into me. Things they say range from:</span></div>
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<span>"How is your day going?"</span></div>
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<span>"Hi, you're cute, who are you and why aren't you my girlfriend?"</span></div>
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<span>I really don't know why guys from Pakistan, Australia, and Madrid even bother. What do you think it going to happen from across the ocean? </span></div>
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<span>When I told one guy, Patrick, that I didn't think we'd be a good match, his response was "I'm worth it."</span></div>
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<span>Which promptly got Fifth Harmony's "Worth It" stuck in my head for a week (not a good song, but so catchy). I foolishly continued the conversation -mainly because the song was stuck in my head- agreed to go on a date, and then balked with then actual day came. </span></div>
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<span>He did seem like a little bit of a jerk though, and at some point Roommate started to refer to him as d-bag. He said things like "You're a cutie pie" (hello, are you my grandmother? Or some random guy on the street? Who says that seriously to a grown woman?), "How come your single?", called me "hun" and was being a bit thick when it came to making me pick everything about the date and then not looking up any of the deets himself. When it came right down to it, nothing on his profile interested me except that he was an EMT and was planning on being a fireman. So I made plans with my roommate and told him I had plans when he tried to reschedule. Since then, I have been "ghosting" him (which is apparently a thing, basically ignoring him) and feeling a little bad about it because the people-pleaser in me just feels like that's a bit rude and if he's going to pursue me I ought to acquiesce, right? Except that his grammar and punctuation were atrocious.</span></div>
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<span>Note to self: add "ability to spell out y-o-u" to list of requirements in a potential. </span></div>
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<span>I had another date scheduled for the next day with a guy who seemed pretty decent. I was the one to actually ask him out, mainly because he was nice and open about his life, and I was bored and if I was going to do this online dating thing, I might as well go on a few dates. But then he messaged me <i>all the time</i> and I started to rethink it. So when he needed to reschedule and I was having a bad week and didn't want to see anyone at all I was relieved, and when he tried to nail down a time I left him unread. I thought about ghosting him, but decided to be an adult and just tell him that what with life and all, I didn't want to pursue anything. He said he understood and to keep in touch.</span></div>
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<span>Which apparently to him means messaging twice a day. </span></div>
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<span>Wrong move, brah. Wrong move. He has now been labeled "Acquaintance" on my Facebook so that he doesn't see most posts. I was hesitant to give him my Facebook, but he said it would give me a better feel for who he was, and it was true - and I was bored. I continue to leave his frequent messages "unread" which feels a little petty, but I work with Jr. High students so pettiness may be rubbing off on me. I know the grown thing to do would be to say I don't want to talk anymore, but I don't have a solid reason other than a simple "I don't want to" so pettiness seems like the better option.</span></div>
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<span>After bailing on Patrick and Deshawn, I just wanted to be done with the whole thing. I uninstalled the app from my phone, I stopped visiting the website on my computer. There was one potential who actually seemed legit and like someone I would for real want to know, so I gave him my number in case he came to town. He's actually a believer and volunteers in his church's middle school youth group (yes!) and we have tons of interests in common - board games, tv shows, books, food. And we both really want to go to the Shedd Aquarium. The only problem? He lives in Milwaukee.</span></div>
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<span>Which is what Roommate and I call him.</span></div>
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<span>"So Milwaukee texted me last night." </span></div>
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<span>"If Milwaukee comes to Chicago then we can..."</span></div>
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<span>I was ready to be done with the whole thing though. </span></div>
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<span>Roommate's friend tried online dating and set out to go on 10 dates. </span></div>
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<span>Roommate suggested I give it five.</span></div>
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<span>So this is what I am setting out to do. </span></div>
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<span>Go on five dates.</span></div>
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<span>With people I think I might actually enjoy, not just whoever is pushy.</span></div>
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<span>Get used to the whole concept. Get over some of my awkwardness when it comes to dating.</span></div>
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<span>Five dates.</span></div>
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<span>I can do that, right?</span></div>
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Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-28062706198645422672015-06-28T13:23:00.001-05:002015-06-28T13:23:40.696-05:00When I still feel alone.<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">How is it that I want anonymity yet crave connection?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">I like being invisible yet my soul cries out to be seen.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">While there are people I connect with, it's sporadically. I am afraid to burden them with my presence - I'm sure it must become tiresome.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">Connecting with people, knowing people, requires intentionality. And I try, I fight against the remnants of shyness that still cling to me and attempt to initiate with others.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">But wouldn't it be nice to be sought after myself?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">I'm hesitant to even say this, as I don't want to be pitied, someone's project they are trying to comfort. I want to be desired in my own right.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">As I feel that maybe it is, maybe I'm too needy or complaining or boring or any other characteristic that might drive people away, I once again think that anonymity may be better than community - reaching for community and finding my hands empty may be more painful that remaining invisible.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">Solitude can be its own comfort.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">Yet I would rather solitude be choice than a fall back.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">I know the deep answer, the Psalm 139 answer, that I am completely known by God and never alone, never apart from His presence. But where is His Body? Are we not supposed to be there and reach out to each other?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 22px; widows: auto;">It just seems a bit messed up that Sunday morning is the time I feel most alone.</span>Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-34260326047844697962015-04-28T01:31:00.000-05:002015-04-28T01:31:05.663-05:00<i>I wrote this a while back. I was hesitant to post it for fear of seeming to toot my own horn. If there is anything praiseworthy, let the praise belong to Christ. </i><br />
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"Cristina, it's fine if you want to do it tonight, but eventually you'll have to realize you can't do everything."<br />
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This is a recurring theme in my life. If there is a need, I want to be the one to fill it. When I see the homeless on the streets I want to invite them to my apartment for a hot meal and shower. There are a few ICI kids I wish I could take in when home life isn't stable. Need a volunteer for another club? I'm your gal. Need a ride somewhere? What else is my car for if not for driving people! Don't have a dress for the wedding? Let's go shopping.<br />
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Meanwhile my room is a mess and the sink is full of dishes and I don't know what in my fridge is still edible.<br />
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I want to have tutoring and small group bible studies and art class and just sit and chat time with my girls as well as the normal visitation, large group Bible study, club, etc.<br />
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Have I mentioned that I love my boss? He often tells me to take care of myself and not overwork, to take advantage of opportunities to rest. With 5 years of ministry at ICI under his belt, he and his wife have learned to put up boundaries so that they are better able to serve. <br />
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It's not a new concept to me, my parents have frequently told me the same thing. But there is something in me that registers the need for boundaries and rest yet can't let go of the desire to fill a need.<br />
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I took a girl shopping tonight after driving for 3rd-5th club, and now am trying to find something easy but tasty to cook for a family who lost a loved one. Oh, and I want to see an out of town friend this weekend as well as attend a wedding after Bible study (what to wear? what to wear??) and meet myfriend'soutoftownfriendandvisitanewchurchandcleanmyhousandbabysitand gaaaaaahh!<br />
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Why do I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders? That if I don't do it, no one else will? Someone will go without or will be stressed - and if it's a choice between them being stressed and me, it's better that it be me. Because... because... and here a sincere love and desire to help is tangled up with a guilt complex that I imposed on myself based on the Christ-like concept of putting others first which I take too far as I subconsciously believe that others truly deserve more than me and have more value than I do.<br />
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It took me a while to understand that about myself. That though "consider others better than yourself" is important (Philippians 2:3), I had taken it too far and twisted it to mean I am worth less than others. Therefore I ought to be the one to carry the bag, take the trash, do the work, volunteer, or whatever opportunity came up. I still fight that mentality, and specifically choose to be "selfish" sometimes to help myself. I don't have to do something just because someone else doesn't want to.<br />
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But very often I still will.<br />
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At the same time, the question, "If I don't do it, who will?" stems from a lack of trust of others. I don't trust others to have the goodwill to do it, or to be skilled or care enough to do it well.<br />
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Part of it is my reputation. I want to be known as a person who is it willing and eager to help, someone you can turn to. Part of it is that a great deal of my love language is acts of service. One might even argue that my spiritual gift is service. I like to feel needed and valued. For the longest time, it was my main way of feeling valued, as I didn't interact well interpersonally as I was fairly shy.<br />
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I'm getting better at saying no. Slowly.<br />
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Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-325504232368610462014-12-04T00:12:00.002-06:002014-12-04T12:50:38.895-06:00Slang, tickets, and other new things!Things and terms I've been learning at ICI and in Chicago:<br />
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Pay attention to parking signs. Acute attention. Look up and down the street and BE SURE you won't get a ticket. AND DON'T FORGET TO MOVE BEFORE RUSH HOUR.<br />
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Vandalism happens. Sure, you hear about it, and see it happen to other people, but now it happened to me. Someone broke my taillight this morning, and there's very little chance it could have been an accident. Thank you, Chicago person, for keeping the stereotype alive.<br />
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"Side chick" - a term to describe the girl who is not your girlfriend but with whom you flirt and do stuff. Taught to me by an 8th grader boasting of his girlfriend and 5 side chicks. In keeping with centuries of skewed culture, it's perfectly ok for him to have girls on the side, but if his girl had boys on the side oooooooh! You'd better watch out! <br />
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"Finna" - a cross between "fixing to" and "going to" (or "fixin' ta" and "gonna"). I subconsciously use this sometimes, and then wince at the degradation of the English language!<br />
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"Thot" - A hoe (which in turn is slang for whore). Not acceptable language at ICI.<br />
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"Shorties" - Definitely a word that has been integrated into my idiolect, I sometimes have to remind myself that those not in the urban world don't know I mean little kids/younger siblings.<br />
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Parallel parking is an art form. I've made it with just inches to spare in both front and back in one try, and I've had to pull out and try again 8 times. It's like trying to paint when I'm not feeling artistic - hit and miss. I've had people sitting on a porch watching congratulate me, and I've wanted to do the same for others. Today I added it to the humorous list of what makes a guy a potential mate. If he can parallel park, he's golden.<br />
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"Rachet" - Though I learned this when I first started in May, I still don't really use it. It means "ghetto", normally in reference to a girl. "Girl, you rachet!" Ask me what it means for a girl to be ghetto? I can understand but I can't explain.<br />
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"Sauced" - forget spaghetti or even inebriation, here this means burned (and not in the flame sense). Used in the context of back and forth banter, the "loser" got sauced.<br />
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I don't know how to dance. I really don't. I am way too stiff, I haven't the foggiest idea how to "bop" and don't know where to begin with the DLow shuffle. Maybe one of the girls will teach me in exchange for tutoring!<br />
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"Ask" and "Tell" are interchangeable. This is not one I'm willing to accept, as asking is an important part of polite society. "Cristina, tell Liz is she gonna pick us up." is the equivalent to: "Cristina, could you ask Liz if she could pick us up?"<br />
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Jokes about one's race are OK sometimes. I can't tell you how many times I've been teased for my "whiteness", and I've learned that it's ok to joke about stereotypes (hot cheetos and taquis anyone? Hot sauce on popcorn?). Yes, I listen to white people music. Yes, I eat white people food. Yes, I dress like a white person. In case you didn't notice, I <i>am</i> white!<br />
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Things are not black and white. Why get in a fight? It's simple, just don't. Why break the law? Just don't. Why dislike cops? They're there to help. All of these things and more are heavy with cultural values and influences, baggage and pressure from those around them. A simple "don't fight" isn't going to make much of a difference. I don't mean there isn't right and wrong, but that giving a blanket "This is right, go and do it" won't work. A lot is going on underneath the surface, and a lot of basic underlying values at odds with Scripture may have to be addressed before any lasting change in behavior could take place.<br />
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All in all, I'm learning a lot and have so much more to learn!<br />
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<br />Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-8492168727460837022014-10-15T00:43:00.001-05:002014-10-15T01:07:02.932-05:00Too Still.He lay still.<br />
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I recognized his face from pictures posted by my friend captioned with endearing words of admiration and respect and sorrow.<br />
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This is him.<br />
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So still.<br />
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More like the wax replicas of life found in museums than a living, breathing human being.<br />
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But that was the point. He was no longer living or breathing.<br />
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Just still.<br />
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I wondered how much the mortician had to do create this frozen image of life.<br />
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<i>I was transported back to a small, crowded room, diesel-polished wood floors creaking, people quietly shuffling forward to view the body in the casket or to give respects to the family. His mother wailing in the chairs lined against the wall. My 9 year old self both curious and frightened, </i>what do dead people look like?<i> I stepped forward to the table at the center of the room, hesitant. He had a rose on his chest. I wanted to curl up next to him, for him to hold me in his strong arms like he used to. I was afraid to touch him. I turned quickly away. </i>Memories of the death of my neighbor - an uncle figure in my life - are still vivid.<br />
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I hate wakes. I'm glad we only held a memorial service for both my grandparents. My last memories of them are of living, breathing beings. I thought that I wanted a body and a casket and a grave and a stone, instead of a pile of ashes in the garden. But I'm glad I never saw them like that.<br />
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So still.<br />
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I found myself grieving again for my grandmother, even for Jorge, the jovial neighbor who spoke English to us but refused to translate so that we would learn Spanish better. Losses are revived at the sight of fresh grief. I was again overwhelmed with gratitude for the many who came alongside my family as we watched the days of her life tick by, my vibrant grandmother slowly fading. Tears fall even now.<br />
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I can't pretend relate, for the loss of a father must be so much deeper than the losses I have experienced. But I do weep with those who weep.<br />
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And so, my friend, who was also shocked by the stillness, the absence of life, I grieve with you.Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-28613308087116594712014-08-02T17:46:00.000-05:002014-08-02T17:46:44.490-05:00Learning from the young.She drew near to my door and leaned against the frame, smiling and waving shyly, then stepping inside.<br />
"Hey Cristina."<br />
"Hey girl. Sorry, but you can't come in, it's policy not to enter each others' rooms."<br />
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Her shoulders slumped and the smile lost its shine. "Ok," she turned to walk back out and down the hall. Earlier she had told me she wished she were in my cabin for camp this year. She had approached me a couple times to talk, but it was in a crowded room or in the middle of an activity. I jumped up and closed the distance between us.<br />
"We can talk in the hall though. How are you doing?"<br />
As we talked about her experience at camp, I wondered why she continually drew near to me. We hadn't had much of a relationship before camp, so it seemed unusual that she would want to talk more now. Suddenly it dawned on me.<br />
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A week earlier when I heard that her dad hadn't been able to save for her to come, it weighed heavy on my heart. So I told her I really wanted her to be able to come, and said if she really wanted to, I would pay for her.<br />
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I showed her that she was wanted and made a way for her to be here.<br />
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Her response is beautiful and touching. A mere "thank you" is not enough for her, she doesn't just enjoy camp no matter how she got there. She continues to seek me out. She desires a relationship.<br />
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Her response should be our response.<br />
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God made a way for us, showed us that we are wanted, we are loved. There was no way that we could pay for our sins, so He paid the price himself. Too often our response is, "Thanks, I'll keep that in mind as I go about the business of life," when it ought to be like hers: I just want to spend time with you and know you more.<br />
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God made the way for us to have something we want, eternal life in heaven. This is not just a ticket to heaven to save until needed, a "Get out of hell free" card, so to speak. Jesus describes it this way:<br />
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"Now this is eternal life, that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent."<br />
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Eternal life doesn't start when our bodies physically die. It's not about living forever in another life. It's starts <i>now</i>. It's about <i>knowing Him</i> from now into eternity.<br />
Since the way has been made, the price has been paid, our response should be gratitude displayed in relationship - a desire to be near Him.<br />
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If we don't desire to be near the Living God, then maybe we don't understand the price he paid to make that possible. Maybe we don't really know Him. Let us desire more than the good things we can get from God. Desire Him.<br />
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<br />Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-63104464995191353372014-07-24T22:56:00.004-05:002014-07-25T09:26:48.835-05:00"Cease Striving." A glimpse of my internal dialogueYesterday and today were hard days.<br />
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Myriad frustrations and fears, irritations and inadequacies swirl around, whispering incessantly that <i>I am not enough</i>.<br />
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All day I sought to pull myself out of the slough of despond with different songs. (If you know me, you know I am always singing. Always). Give me Jesus was one of the main ones. Good songs, beautiful songs, but songs that were still focused on me, on what I needed. That's where my focus was. <i>I can't handle this. I need them to stop complaining. </i>(J, I warned you I would write about you!) <i>Why does nothing I say make a difference?</i> <i>I am so tired. I need to have a better attitude. </i>Near the end of the day I started praising God rather than asking God.<br />
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Praise God from whom all blessings flow<br />
Praise Him all creatures here below<br />
Praise Him above ye heavenly host<br />
Praise Father, Son, and Holy Ghost<br />
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When I took my eyes off myself and put them on Him, so much pressure was relieved.<br />
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But still, little things kept going wrong and my exhaustion blew them out of proportion.<br />
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"God, I don't understand why my day was so hard." My fingers pick out the chords to "I have decided to follow Jesus" as I finally unwind at home. The verse "The world behind me, the cross before me" rings through my head over and over again. The cross before me. Ever before me. Fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning it's shame. Fix your eyes on Jesus. He endured the cross and I can't even endure a hard day. Really, Cristina? Fix your eyes on Jesus. You need to get better at this.<br />
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My phone trills, announcing the arrival of a text:<br />
"Cease striving and know that I am God, I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth. Psalms 46:10"<br />
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Did you know that the Psalms were written for me? Because I'm pretty sure God said that specifically to me and had someone write it down a long time ago because (as I taught in the lesson about Joseph in Egypt today) God knows everything and knows what will be needed and so knew that I needed to hear that today. RIGHT NOW.<br />
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Cease striving and know that I am God, I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.<br />
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"I'm trying to do everything right, God, but I can't! I don't know why it's so hard or why I keep failing!"<br />
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"Cease striving."<br />
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It quiets my soul, the protests die out.<br />
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"Cease striving and know that I am God."<br />
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If He is God, then I don't have to be. I don't have to be perfect, I don't have to have it all together, I don't have to get it right all the time.<br />
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"Cease striving and know that I am God."<br />
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If He is God, then it's ok that I am weak, because He is all-powerful, and His power is shown off best in my weakness.<br />
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"Cease striving and know that I am God, I will be exalted among the nations."<br />
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Briefly the thought passes through my mind that I'm not cut out for the city. Last week someone on the street yelled at me harshly for parking the van, and I nearly cried. A friend was surprised yesterday that I stood up for myself in another situation, and when I tried to reprimand the kids apparently I did it too nicely. I thought I had toughened up, but it seems not nearly enough. The thought passed through my mind that I won't be effective in showing the kids Christ, being too weak and gentle to be heard.<br />
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"I will be exalted in the earth."<br />
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If I "mess up" in trying to make Him known, it's ok. My failings won't keep God from receiving the glory of which He is worthy, <i>He will be exalted.</i> It's not conditional. Stop trying so hard. He's God and it's going to happen, the weight of the world does not rest on you, Cristina. <i>He will be exalted.</i><br />
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And when you realize and remember who God is, that's all that really matters in the end.Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-30060968778300869042014-07-22T02:33:00.000-05:002014-07-22T02:33:03.311-05:00When people throw things at your car. (Because I have no better title).Driving through an unfamiliar neighborhood, having dropped off a kid after Bible study who lived further away, I tried to maneuver one way residential streets to get back on a familiar main road. It was a beautiful day, cool, sunny, breezy - my ideal weather. I slowed the big 15 passenger van for the kids in the street up ahead. They looked to be about the same age as the kids I work with at ICI, around 8th or 9th grade. There was a plastic cup and some sticks in the street, and the girl motioned for me to slow down, she seemed to be indicating the things in the middle of the road. I slowed to attempt to straddle them, in case it was some game or something they were playing, then stopped when a boy stepped out in front of the van and crossed over to be with the rest of his friends. As I accelerated, the girl threw a half-filled water bottle through the open window, hitting my wrist, and the boy threw a stick in front of my tires. I swerved instinctively to avoid it as the kids scattered, laughing and screaming, as if surprised they made it through the window and afraid I was going to come after them.<br />
A small part of me thought the idiot kids needed to be taught a lesson - you really can't do that to people. A large part of the kids in the back of the van thought the same thing, vocalizing it quite loudly. (One later told me I should go back to that block and give those kids a whooping, because it's just not right for them to act like that. THAT was pretty funny, as the kid has done his fair share of stupid things too.) Mostly, I was just amused as I shook out my wrist to make sure it hadn't aggravated an old injury, leaned over to grab the bottle where it landed on the passenger seat and dropped in the in the trash bin between the seats.<br />
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I'd like to tie this into some deep spiritual truth. I love when things like this illustrate theological concepts. Maybe someday I'll come across one.<br />
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Mostly it just confirmed once again that I'm in the right business: my first instinct was to get out of the car and get to know them, invite them to ICI. I couldn't at the time, having other kids to bring home. I am glad Christ stirred my heart for the youth of Chicago, I just love them. I want so badly for these young men and women to know Him and I greatly enjoy getting to know them.<br />
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Even though they do stupid things like throwing trash into moving cars.Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-17800071870920392302014-07-15T02:37:00.000-05:002014-07-15T02:37:10.153-05:00Change.I just rearranged my living room.<br />
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This is a big deal because 1. Things are heavy and my roommate isn't home, 2. I started a little after midnight when I should have been sleeping, and 3. I HATE CHANGE.<br />
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I never understood the girls in college who rearranged their rooms a couple times a semester. Any time my roommate rearranged the room while I was gone during a break I cried a little inside as I put on what I hoped was a neutral face and said "Oh. You rearranged the room," listening to all the reasons it made the room better. I usually got used to it within a week, but preferred it to have stayed the same (I managed to be in the same room all four years, that's how much I love consistency).<br />
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So many things changed and fluctuated and made me feel "other" in my life that at least having the same possessions and having the furniture in the same place was something constant and familiar. When we moved when I was in Jr. High, my parents let us kids arrange the living room - it stayed pretty much the same for 7 years, as did my bedroom. (I still use the bedspread I started using when I was 12, brought with me from Ecuador).<br />
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I've lived here for less than a year and I have now changed things TWICE. The first time was out of necessity, things had to be shifted when I got a piano. The room is rectangular and I had the piano and the couch on the long sides, making the room very narrow. Today I moved the couch to under the window, making the room more square. <i>And I like it</i>.<br />
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Something changed and <i>I like it</i>.<br />
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Maybe it's the stability of living in one country for several years now, living in my own home for a nearly a year that allows me to enjoy change. Maybe it's the fulfillment that comes from loving your job and knowing you are valued and needed. Maybe it's from knowing I am exactly where God wants me right now. Maybe it's because things have been too steady, too safe, and I subconsciously need the change now. Or maybe the room arrangement was just awful before. Whatever the reason, changed happened and I was ok with it.<br />
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I think it is a sign that I am content. I am not holding on to things being exactly as they are, I am not fearful of the future or longing for the past or clinging to this scrap of reality. I am content enough to have something change and it not greatly shake my reality.<br />
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I am not fully in favor of change. I have not suddenly stopped liking things a specific way or being attached to familiar things (I will definitely cry inside when I trade out my car for something smaller). But I think it is a step. A step towards letting go of the need to cling to what I have, cling to the way things are, grasp on to anything for stability and consistency. My feet are planted and growing roots deep enough to enjoy the changing of seasons around me.<br />
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I could easily cry when I think of <i>how happy I am</i> at this point in my life. I love feeling planted.<br />
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I am content.Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-51779736155754554352014-06-26T14:54:00.001-05:002014-06-26T14:54:39.378-05:00Tornadoes and Sheep.It's hard to think that only six weeks have passed since I started at ICI. The previous stage of life seems like a distant memory - was that really less than two months ago?<br />
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Summer at ICI is a flurry of activities, there is always something to be done, when one outing is done it's time to prepare for the next. Even so, there are some calm moments to catch your breath before diving in again. This is one of those moments, a few hours of quiet office work giving me a moment to reflect on all that has happened. Last week's three day camping trip to Baraboo, Wisconsin was a great time of relationship building and reflection on God. Many humorous moments offset the rain and mud, the first of which was at the very beginning:<br />
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On the way there, I was stirred from my thoughts by the young girls in the last row of the 15 passenger van.<br />
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"The city is just crowded and noisy, that's not really living. <u style="font-style: italic;">This</u> is real life," one girl said, gesturing out the window, trees and fields rolling by. "Nature and trees and green. This is really living. Tornadoes..." she paused as if trying to think of other naturally occurring things, then finished with "Nature. That's real life." Said with all the confidence and wisdom of a nine year old. The chattering from the three friends continued, then was interrupted by a collective gasp: "Oh! Look! Horses!"<br />
I smiled in amusement, commenting "Those are donkeys."<br />
"Donkeys!" they said with the same level of excitement, completely unphased. "And sheep! Now that is real life! Sheep." the very knowledgeable nine year old said matter-of-factly.<br />
The picturesque field spotted with grazing sheep slipped past to be replaced by rolling hills blanketed in forest.<br />
"Bye puppy-sheep!"<br />
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In a sense, our over-confident nine year old was right: real life <i>is</i> about tornadoes and sheep. There are moments in life that feel like everything is being torn apart and tossed upside-down. I've experienced many of those. You wonder what in the world God is doing, why, and how it could possibly be a good thing. <i>I've given so much to you, God, and </i>this<i> is how you repay me? </i>Tornadoes test our faith and bring forth our fears.<br />
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I'm going to let you in on a secret: I like tornadoes. Growing up, I loved visiting Ohio during tornado season. The air gets thick and heavy, the wind is gusty and fresh and musty all at the same time, the sky changes to a very un-sky-like green. I know you're supposed to get inside and away from windows, but I just want to watch the tree-tops whip back and forth, trash cans skittering down the street. The air is weighty with power, reminding me of my mighty God.<br />
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But that is a side track. Last year I heard about a teenage boy who dropped unconscious while playing basketball and died soon after. I mourned for him, but in a disconnected way. Now I know his brother, one of the kids who come to ICI. There is a lot of violence and unexpected death in Chicago. Tornadoes rise up suddenly and wreak havoc on our lives.<br />
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That is why "The LORD is my shepherd" is so sweet. He guides in the midst of fear and the changing patterns of life. He gives us rest, <i>causes</i> us to rest. "Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death" (He is leading us, remember? That's what a shepherd does) we need not fear because <i>he is there with us,</i> more powerful than anything that could try to knock us over, gentle enough to comfort and restore us.<br />
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Real life is full of tornadoes - tumultous times - and sheep - people in need of a Shepherd to guide and protect them. Our nine year old didn't know how right she really was.Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-23478131990319025922014-05-03T15:44:00.001-05:002014-05-03T16:15:36.100-05:00Sunshine and a Chain Link FenceThe City is awakening.<br />
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The birds chirp and chatter their merry conversation, tulips open their hearts to the sunshine, daffodils nod their heads cheerily.<br />
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The City has come alive.<br />
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It's exciting, to see the people about, to pass children and teens, recognizing some of them as part of ICI. But as the weather heats up and draws everyone outside, so will the relations between people. Summer is a violent time in Chicago.<br />
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A part of me is afraid. I don't do well with anger, it frightens me. It runs rampant in the city, spreading like a disease. I've seen it in the eyes of a group of men on the street corner and in the eyes of a group of girls at ICI. When the anger is stored up inside it doesn't take much for it to spill over.<br />
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Another part of me becomes bold, all the more urgently wanting to spread the gospel of peace and forgiveness.<br />
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And yet, as I think of how I want to impact the people of Chicago once I start at ICI, I realize I haven't even met my neighbors across the street.<br />
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Or even next door.<br />
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I saw him today and spoke to him for the first time, this neighbor to the south of me. He said "Hey, how's it goin'?" I shot him a quick half-hearted smile and an automatic "Good, you?" He threw me back a distracted "Good" and called to his little girl toddling in the shadow of our two houses. We were separated by a chain link fence and miles of thought. I was focused on getting to the office before 1:00 pm and he was focused on getting his daughter. A second and a half later I turned back to introduce myself, but by then he had turned away and was walking towards his front steps. I met his wife, once, months ago. She has dark hair. She probably told me her name, it might still be in the dark recesses of the unused portion of my brain.<br />
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I have no trouble reaching out to those who are assigned to me as "ministry," but those naturally around me? It's so easy to be intentional in one area but not the other. But even when I try to make eye contact or look for an opening with people, they seem distant and aloof. I want to break this barrier that isolates us. Maybe as the sun warms up the city it will thaw the barriers between people, so that as anger increases on the street, compassion and love and friendship (or at least neighborly camaraderie) can as well. I <br />
want to bring Christ to both - the kids I intentionally seek out and those I pass every day.<br />
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And that starts with a simple "Hello."</div>
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Hopefully next time I'll add, "I'm Cristina." </div>
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Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-57045880957838336972014-04-19T23:33:00.000-05:002014-04-19T23:33:05.411-05:00NASA.I am in the final countdown.<br />
<i>{TEN}</i><br />
I can hear the crackling voice of the NASA announcer as the rockets power up.<br />
<i>{NINE}</i><br />
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NASA I thought. Not As Soon As I thought. This journey has taken a bit longer than I anticipated. BLAST OFF is not yet here, though it is at long last in the final stages. The feeling of anticipation rises, the engines power up and the restraints are shaking.<br />
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<i>Not yet</i> though.<br />
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<i>Wait. </i><br />
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<i>Just a little bit longer.</i><br />
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It's hard to want to keep going through the routine procedures when the moment of excitement is so near. I've gone through them before, I'm sure everything will be fine now. I could just finish after, right? But it's important to make sure everything is as it should be, everyone is where they need to be. I am in that moment hovering between NINE and EIGHT and every moment before BLAST OFF, waiting for the remaining people to come alongside, to flip the switches and point the direction.<br />
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Okay, the rocket/NASA analogy might be a little dramatic. I'll restrain myself from continuing. Well, after this last bit: Think of all the people behind the astronaut - there is no way on earth he could leave and accomplish his mission without the hundreds of people who make it possible. I am glad for the past year and a half of support raising, because it means that <i>I am not alone</i> in my missionary endeavors.<br />
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This has been something I have struggled with. I had my whole life planned out after high school. A vital part of that picture was that once I graduated college and went into missions, I would have a partner in life. I would be married. I wouldn't do it alone.<br />
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Yet here I am, alone. The fairy-tale missionary prince didn't come along. I had to start the daunting task of tripling the number of people I know. Alone. And I won't lie, it has been challenging. There have been times of weakness when I didn't go to some event I should have gone to, or didn't talk to someone I ought to. Other times I pushed through and met the new person - contrary to the shy, introverted self that wanted to stay in the corner. ("How will you be a missionary if you prefer the corner?" you ask. By His transforming grace). So many times I felt alone.<br />
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But I'm not. <i>I am not alone.</i><br />
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The great thing about support raising is that now I am surrounded by ministry partners who cheer me on, back me up in prayer, give words of advice and encouragement, intercede for me before the Father. I am so blessed by many I would never have known. There have been times when, worn out from "selling" myself, I met someone who caught the vision and whose excitement restored mine. And often a note with a monthly gift, a snippet of scripture or just an affirmation of prayer brightens my day.<br />
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So as I wait for that scratchy announcer voice to call out <i>{EIGHT}, {SEVEN}, {SIX}, </i>the percentages ticking away,<i> </i>as I wait for the moment I get to settle into the office of ICI, to walk the streets of Chicago and talk with the kids, I know that I don't do it alone. We wait and seek out those last six or so people who will join with us in the mission to reach Chicago's kids with Christ's hope.<br />
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Thank you for not letting me go forth alone!<br />
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<br />Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-72288951888185399952014-03-27T19:54:00.004-05:002014-03-30T01:51:33.696-05:00Last Goodbyes.<blockquote class="tr_bq">
I should not dare to leave my friend,<br />
Because - because if he should die,<br />
While I was gone - and I - too late -<br />
Should reach the heart that wanted me - </blockquote>
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If I should disappoint the eyes<br />
That hunted - hunted - so to see -<br />
And could not bear to shut until<br />
They "noticed" me - they noticed me -</blockquote>
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If I should stab the patient faith<br />
So sure I'd come - so sure I'd come -<br />
It listening - listening - went to sleep -<br />
Telling my tardy name - </blockquote>
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My heart would wish it broke before -<br />
Since breaking then - since breaking then -<br />
Were useless as next morning's sun<br />
Where midnight frosts - had lain!</blockquote>
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This was my favorite Emily Dickinson poem in American Lit. I loved the depth of feeling portrayed by the repetition. I still do. She wrote about Death a lot.<br />
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I felt rather like this when I found out my grandmother was dying three weeks ago. I should not dare to leave Grandmae, because - because if she should die while I was gone and I too late should reach the heart that wanted me. I stayed for three weeks, that I might be there when she died. In the end, I wasn't. It is easy for me to want to slip into Emily Dickinson mode, to be overwhelmed by the death and sorrow of life.<br />
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A few minutes ago I was writing a letter. A letter to the many who stand behind me, stand with me, and have lifted up my family in prayer. "I said my goodbyes," I told them. <i>I said my goodbyes.</i> My breath caught and I stopped writing. <i>I said my goodbyes</i>. My friend put a hand on my shoulder as the tears started to fall. I closed my eyes and pictured it. <i>I said my goodbyes. </i><br />
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I sat on the edge of her bed and took her hand, soft and fragile, loose skin slowly withering from dehydration. When I was young I would sit on her lap and hold her hand, carefully tracing the soft blue veins that stood in relief from the wrinkles. I marveled at how fragile and beautiful old age made her hands. Her hands had been old and beautiful for a long time. Her soft white hair was straight, lying gently on the pillow. She used to only wear it permed and pinned up. I remember my surprise the first time I saw her hair down. I missed the way she used to take care of her hair so that it would always be proper. The bed was raised so she was half sitting, that her single functioning lung could effectively breathe. She looked at me and I at her. I swallowed hard, willing my voice to be cheerful and the lump in my throat to disappear. It was time. Time for me to go back to Chicago. I had stayed for as long as felt right, but I still didn't want to leave. This was the moment I always dreaded. I wanted to pretend it wasn't happening, pretend it was a normal, lighthearted goodbye. But I also wanted her to know how much I loved her, that I appreciated all the wonderful grandmotherly things she had done for me. I blinked rapidly and smiled.</blockquote>
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<i>Don't cry,</i> she had said to me a few days previous. A smile was in her croaking voice and lit her eyes. <i>My face is dry. I'm just watering it,</i> I quipped. The smile touched her lips. </blockquote>
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I tried hard not to cry. Most of the words came out, but at the end I cracked and crumbled. <i>I love you. </i>She didn't say it back. The lump in her throat must be as large as mine. I leaned in and lifted her arm, and she hugged me back. The first hug she had given me in months. And the last. </blockquote>
<i>I said my last goodbyes.</i> It finally hit me that she no longer lay in the bed with the white sheets, head elevated, crunching on ice chips. Her graceful, soft, withered hands no longer reached for us or roamed over the sheets, fidgeting. She isn't waiting for me to return. <i>I said my last goodbyes.</i><br />
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The memory faded. I knelt on the floor, crying. <i>Father, if she is indeed rejoicing in heaven with you, could you give me a reassurance of that? It would be less bitter if I knew. I just want to know.</i> Moments passed. "She is alive right now." My friend's voice broke the silence. "Walking and talking." His hand on my shoulder a source of comfort, his words stilled the fears in my heart.<br />
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Death is so final.<br />
<i>Last goodbyes </i>echoes in my thoughts.<br />
Except it's not.<br />
<i>She is alive.</i><br />
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<br />Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-56034922698600879352014-02-21T17:53:00.000-06:002014-02-21T18:01:57.619-06:00Psalm 77: When the past brings truth.<div style="text-align: center;">
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I cried out to God for help;</div>
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I cried out to God to hear me.</div>
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When I was in distress, I sought the Lord;</div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">I remembered you, O God, and I groaned;</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">I mused, and my spirit grew faint.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">You kept my eyes from closing;</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">I was too troubled to speak.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">I thought about the former days, the years of long ago.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">I remembered my songs in the night</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">My heart mused and my spirit inquired:</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">"</span>Will the Lord reject forever? Will he never show his favor again?</div>
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Has his unfailing love vanished forever? Has his promise failed for all time? </div>
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Has God forgotten to be merciful?</div>
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Has he in anger withheld his compassion?"</div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">Then I thought,</span> "To this I will appeal:</div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> the years of the right hand of the Most High."</span></div>
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I will remember the deeds of the LORD,</div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">I will meditate on all your works </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> and consider all your mighty deeds.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">Your ways, O God, are holy. What god is so great as our God?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">You are the God who performs miracles;</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> you display your power among the peoples.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">With your mighty arm you redeemed your people, the descendants of Jacob and Joseph.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">The waters saw you, O God, the waters saw you and writhed;</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> the very depths were convulsed.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">The clouds poured down water,</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> the skies resounded with thunder;</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> you arrows flashed back and forth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">Your thunder was heard in the whirlwind,</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> your lightning lit up the world;</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> the earth trembled and quaked.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">Your path led through the sea,</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> your way through the mighty waters,</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> though your footprints were not seen.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">You led your people like a flock by the hand of Moses and Aaron. </span></div>
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It's been a while since I've been so distressed. But I remember it. I remember being like the psalmist, with an ache so deep you can't even talk about it, and emptiness that nothing seems to fill.<i> Where are you, God? </i><br />
The Psalmist lies awake at night, so very troubled. Looking back, he once sang with joy, but now sees only his troubles, and despairs. Will the Lord always reject me? Will I never see his favor again? Will his unfailing love fail? Have his everlasting promises died out? This God who delights in mercy, did he just <i>forget</i> to be merciful? </div>
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How many times have I secretly doubted? When I take the time to give voice to the unsettledness, the disquiet in my spirit, I realize I am afraid that it won't all work out. That there will not be healing and reconciliation, that God will not forgive, that He will not bring to completion the calling he has given. "Ok God, I'm here, now what? Will you just abandon me? Maybe you won't forgive this time. Maybe you've handed us over to the enemy and forgotten about us. Maybe you've set forth this task but won't help me finish it."</div>
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The Psalmist's answer is not, "Look, I've served him faithfully, I <i>deserve</i> all these things! I deserve his favor, his love, his mercy, his compassion." It's, "Let me take another look at what he has done." How can I know that God will be who he says he is? I can remind myself that he has already proved it, again and again. Is God faithful? Yes! He always has been! Will God show his favor again? Yes! He did before, time and again. Does God stay his anger and show compassion? Over and over again! </div>
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Right now I am in a period of waiting. The days stretch out long before me yet still fly by, and there is only so much I can do. But even for what I can do, I am often overcome by fear. I secretly think that God won't provide. He won't see me through the support raising process, I'll never get to work with the kids at ICI, to do what he called me to do. I fear that this person I'm about to call or meet with will feel burdened and annoyed by me. God certainly won't speak to them or provide for them to be part of my ministry. I have probably angered him with my sin, he won't show favor until I make up for it. Yet as soon as I put words to those thoughts, they are revealed as ridiculous lies. Of course I <i>know</i> that God provides! He has done so for his people throughout history, for my family over the decades, and for me in the past year! Of course if I believe he can lead and speak to me and provide for my ministry, then he can also lead others to take part and provide for them to do so! Look how many times he has done so up 'til now. And if his favor and forgiveness were based on my deserts, I would be lost. But they are based on <i>his</i> love and <i>his </i>character, not on me at all. I can look to the past, both near and far, to allay my fears and find hope. </div>
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Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919206404167570412.post-39605598664720346192014-01-23T23:09:00.000-06:002014-01-23T23:09:14.146-06:00New years, new creations.<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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Ecuador has a tradition for New Years Eve: At midnight the <i>hombre viejo</i> or "old man" is burned. This scarecrow/dummy is created by stuffing a set of clothes with newspaper or straw, and finished off with shoes, gloves, and a mask. The <i>hombre viejo</i> is then doused with gasoline and burned at midnight. This signifies saying goodbye to the old - of last year - and welcoming the new. It is a time of great celebration, even more than Christmas, with fireworks painting the sky and firecrackers snapping and dancing in the streets.<br /><br /><div>
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-LDd0OxL_lxI/UuHtAHPdAzI/AAAAAAAAAWY/V6NH8NsqQNU/s1600/Video+call+snapshot+47.png" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-LDd0OxL_lxI/UuHtAHPdAzI/AAAAAAAAAWY/V6NH8NsqQNU/s1600/Video+call+snapshot+47.png" width="200" /></a><a href="http://mckinleyfuneral.files.wordpress.com/2014/01/img_5827_thumb.jpg?w=198&h=244" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/proxy/yl_3wPLjTI1_EGxFm5Sx6GDcqYGeyCNENFGPCP3VrUSzor5zUZaBaCy93gvOHT0dbnltlx6QhkSOPAzkwSoJeSyOnSLsv_rogWzIg6z-aoYzraNG80TtWtjHvYOTtoxhLqfBcEo" width="161" /></a>This year, the duality of old and new, goodbye and welcome, lays heavy on me. At the end of 2013, my dear friend and adopted "grandma" Bobbie Borman passed into glory. She and her husband served the Cofan tribe of Ecuador for decades. She touched so many lives and will be missed dearly. On the 2nd of January, my niece Molly was born. She is welcomed with great joy. New life. </div>
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<br />The New Year also reminds me: "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation - the old has gone, the new has come" (2 Corinthians 5:17). Just as we burn the <i>hombre viejo</i> to say goodbye to the old year and greet the new, we put to death our old sin nature and live our new lives as children of God. Grandma Borman was a woman well acquainted with this. She desired greatly to leave her old sin and grow in holiness in Christ. A woman of prayer and unceasing love, she left both a legacy and an example to follow. <br /><br />With her passing, I have been thinking a lot about death. Chicago is a place that is full of death - stories of shootings and accidents and murders are constant. Right my news app gives me headlines of "At least 5 hurt in city shootings", "Infant girl's death investigated in Barrington," "Autopsies: 2 died from cold exposure" and even "Peacock dies after escape from petting zoo." <br /><br />Throughout the day as at odd moments I am reminded of Grandma Borman's death, I also feel a twinge of jealousy - she is in glory with our Lord, something I long for. Even as I cry, I smile to think of the joy she must be experiencing. But it brings to mind even more all those who encounter death without this hope. And I am reminded that this is why I do what I do. "Since then, we know what it is to fear the LORD, we try to convince others." We know what it is to have hope in Christ - how can we not share this with those who don't?<br /><br /> This support raising stage feels much like the "already-not yet" of our Christian lives. I am already part of ICI but not yet at ICI. I am already in ministry representing God's heart for missions to the Church, but not yet in hands-on ministry with the kids God has laid on my heart. We are already saved and justified, we are being sanctified, but we wait in eager expectation to be glorified and to be with our Lord. <br /><br />Grandma Borman, sing a Hallelujah for me! <br /><br /><br /></div>
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Harsh voices were rarely used in my childhood, except for the most dire circumstances. GET OUT OF THE STREET! DON'T TOUCH THE STOVE! And probably something like WHAT HAPPENED??? when we broke the glass light cover and sliced open my 3 year old sister's knee. Even under those circumstances, the motive behind the raised voice was not anger. I've always been sensitive to even a firm tone, yelling especially frightens me.<br />
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SHUT UP!!<br />
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A little flame of fear instantly flickers into being in my chest at the tone. A little girl is crying, probably three or four years old. The irate mother's anger aggravates rather than softens her sobs.<br />
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SHUT THE **** UP!<br />
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More crying, frightened tears.<br />
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A fourth outburst with more swearing causes the child to try to contain herself, but with little success. My heart breaks for this little girl. And just as anger starts to rise against the mother, my heart breaks for her as well. This woman who is broken and bruised and doesn't know how to not take out her pain on her child. This woman who is enmeshed in her sin, who has nurtured her anger, who doesn't know the healing love and forgiveness of Christ. It frightens me to think of many out there are just like her - hurting and afraid, angry and violent, desperately wicked and desperately in need of the love of the Savior.<br />
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When I look around this city I see so many full of anger, quietly cold, simmering, boiling over. <i>What have you gotten me into, God? </i>Anger frightens me, but the people you have called me to are steeped in it. Passing down through generations, across to their peers, it spreads like poison.<br />
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To quote a wise sage, "Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to [darkness]." Sometimes it seems like darkness is swallowing this city. But perfect love casts out fear. Over and over again, hundreds of times, God tells his people not to fear. Do not be afraid.<br />
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The voices of the woman and her child fade from earshot, passing by the wrought iron gate and continuing north. The cozy, peaceful feeling of just seconds before has fled. I am left with the growing burden, now more urgent, to bring the Good News to the streets of Chicago.Raindrops...http://www.blogger.com/profile/12372620578786960900noreply@blogger.com2